Introducing The Three Simple Steps

Introducing The Three Simple Steps


Have you ever looked about and realized that life isn’t working out exactly the way you thought it would?

Have you ever felt stuck in a job or a career or a situation that just didn’t work for you?

Have you ever wished you could change everything completely?

I feel that way right now and I’m going to do something about it.

Here’s the fun part. I’m going to change my life completely and I’m going to write about it as I do it. I think this will be very valuable for me and I strongly suspect that it will be valuable for you, the reader, as well. I am sure it’s going to make interesting reading.

So here’s the idea. I have created a process and a virtual tool box to go with it called the 3 SIMPLE STEPS. It is designed to facilitate problem-solving and transformation.

I’m in the process of writing a book about this and I am starting a consulting business based on it. I have already coached several people through the process and they have seen spectacular results.

What I am going to here is to write about the 3 Simple Steps as I apply them to my life. Specifically as I apply them to creating a new company.

There is a podcast called “Start-Up” that was, in it’s first season, about starting the podcasting company that produced the podcast (very self-referencial). That is part of the inspiration.

So I’ve told you what I’m going to do. Now I’m going to start doing.

An Introduction to the 3 Simple Steps

After years of leaning how to make impossible things happen I have learned tons of tools, techniques and technologies for goal setting, habit forming, attitude adjusting and life changing. What I realized was that simple structures that are easy to remember and apply are the most powerful in the long run because they are easier to use. I also realized that solving problems or creating new habits or generating miracles all required three things.

  • A clear understanding of the context
  • An understanding of responsibility and accountability
  • Action

That led to the formulation of the 3 Simple Steps

Step 1: Step Back

That a look at the big picture.

Step 2: Step Up

Take responsibility for your part in it.

Step 3: Step Forward

Take action.

It’s easy to think of the three steps as sequential but they are really itterative. Stepping Back, for example, is important to do after you are in action to make sure you are Stepping Forward in the right direction.

Stepping Back

I have been applying and refining versions of these steps for years. I used an early version of them when I co-founded Annex Theatre in Seattle and I used a more developed version when I founded Sacred Fools Theater and Instant Films in Los Angeles. While doing these things I developed a facility for helping people to live their dreams.

I also made some terrible mistakes. I made bad career choices. I ate too much and drank too much and hurt people I loved with lies and horrible behavior. I became selfish, miserable and irresponsible and I nearly lost my home, my wife, my family and my health.

About 9 years ago I reached a crisis point. I was unemployed, 150 pounds overweight and deeply depressed. With the help of support groups, therapists, friends and my wonderful wife, I started to turn my life around.

Now things are quite different. I’ve been thriving at the same company for nearly 6 years, I quit drinking and I’ve lost over 120 pounds. My marriage is strong and I am very happy.

This transformation has come about because I applied the 3 Simple Steps to my life.

So what’s next?

The First Step

Stepping Back is all about looking at the big picture. There are a lot of tools in this part of the 3SS (3 Simple Steps) tool shed and I will cover all of them in future blog posts and in the book. One important tool is GOAL CREATION.

You can create a goal for a lot of reasons or for no reason at all. It’s better if you have good clear reasons for reasons that will become clearer when we get into the other steps. Clear? Reasonable? Good.

So these are questions I ask my clients (and myself) to create goals.

  • What do you want to accomplish?
  • What problem do you want to solve?
  • What are the things about your life that really work or you really enjoy?
  • What are the things about your life that really don’t work?
  • What is the purpose of your life? (This is a huge sounding question but don’t be intimidated by it. Just guess at it for now or skip it if it’s too scary. We’ll get back to this.)

So when I did this myself it became very clear that the way I made my living was the biggest problem in my life. I have a great job and I work with great people but the office is a 2 hour commute away and the job doesn’t take advantage of my core strengths.

It’s also not aligned with my purpose in life.

(BTW:My purpose is To create art, communities and structures that inspire people to create and live their dreams. I just made that up just now.)

So now it’s time to create a goal or two.

If you got something out of this, please share with your friends!

6 thoughts on “Introducing The Three Simple Steps

  1. Oh My.
    I love this. I love this. I will post it. I will start today, on my 3SS. I hope it is okay that I am directly related to you, because that/this is not why I am taking these 3SS. It is because this all makes sense and I need this. I need this.

    1. But seriously….

      First of all, thanks very much for reading and commenting. I really appreciate it.

      I have one suggestion. Your goals should be specific and measurable. You said that you wanted to be a respected professional. That may have a specific meaning to you but to me it sounds kind of vague. For example I respect the heck out of you and, as far as I know, you get paid to do stuff so that makes you a professional.

      Goal reached.

      if you want to attain the a certain level of respect in your community it would be very helpful to figure out a way to measure or quantify that so that you can figure out how to improve that metric.

      I’d be happy to discuss this with you privately if you want or we can talk about it on this forum where I’m sure other people would be interested in the conversation and get something from it.

      I should say that I hesitated to write this reply and offer this advice because I was so grateful for your comment and, despite the fact that I have some information and expertise to offer in this area, I feel kind of embarrassed about offering it.

      Silly, right? This is a blog about setting goals and solving problems so why shouldn’t I offer advice about setting goals and solving problems. Like most people I have an ingrained instinct to keep my light carefully hidden underneath that bushel and keep my wisdom to myself.

      But I’m not doing THAT anymore.!

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