In a recent post (actually it was yesterday) I talked about the power of planning. Basically I get a lot more done and have a much more satisfying experience when I plan my day and stick to that plan.
I’m living a planned day today.
So far so good!
The embarrassing thing is that I know that a planned day is a more productive day but I don’t do it all the time. I “forget” the power of planning.
I “forget” about planning because I rebel against being told what to do, even if it’s me telling myself what to do.
I’m confident that most people do the same thing (please let me know if I’m wrong about this!) This is natural and normal. Part of our development as humans is a drive to rebel against authority. Young lions leave the pride to find mates that are not related to them. It’s an instinct. Humans do a similar thing. From the moment we’re born we’re trying to increase our personal control and autonomy just like all creatures. When we want something to change we do whatever we can to make it happen. Infants wail, babies grab things and try to crawl, two-year-olds say “no!” and “mine!” teenagers grumble and break rules. Twenty-somethings drink too much and become socialists. Fifty-somethings yell at their teenagers and run for office.
We’re just like lions and tigers and bears except we take longer to reach maturity and we’re blessed/cursed with self-awareness and intelligence.
So that’s why I avoid planning, which I know is good for me and I enjoy when I do it.
Here’s another thing that is effective and enjoyable that I try to avoid like the plague.
Talking to other people.
What we can really effect with our hands is very limited. What we can effect with communication is literally unlimited and I have done absolutely nothing worthwhile, including writing novels, on my own.
So why do I avoid it?
Many people who know me might be surprised to know that I’m really an introvert. When I was a kid I would spend all day reading and today that’s still what I long to do. I’m also very afraid of other people. I worry about what people think of me and I’m convinced on a deep level that I don’t belong.
I don’t think I’m alone in this.
But, like resisting authority, this is not useful and it’s not healthy.
There is really no reason not to ask other people for help or advice or partnership. Most people don’t ask for help because they don’t want to impose on others. If you think this way, consider how you feel when someone asks you for help. Most of the time, if the request is an actual request (not a demand) we feel honored to be asked and we want to do whatever we can. Maybe we can’t help but we’d like to.
So I’m spending a part of my day making contact with people to ask for help in building my business and finding new clients.
My invitation to you is to do the same. This is the new simple step. STEPPING OUT. Step out of your daily box and call someone you haven’t talked to in a while or call that one person who has the power to make your project leap forward or change your life.
Yeah, I slipped that in there. It’s no longer the THREE simple steps. It’s now the FOUR simple steps.
And now Step Out.
Gotta change the name of the blog without losing all my content. Anybody have any suggestions?
Also, I write and produce explainer videos and interviews. I need clients. Let me know if you know someone who needs that!
By the way, the most powerful part of your body? Your mouth.